My OkCupid Experience

With it almost Valentine's Day I wanted to do a little post on luuuuurve. Well sort of. I'm going to talk about my OkCupid experience. The ups and the downs and I promise there is a happy ending.

The Beginning

I joined OkCupid when I was about 23. That was 4-5 years ago now. I know, I don't know where the time has gone either. I didn't take it too seriously at the time. I also didn't meet that many people. It took me a few months to work up the courage to finally agree to meeting someone. I learned very quickly though what messages to reply to and what messages to ignore and ones that perhaps deserved a chance. See... when a message just consists of "hey how r u? wuu2?" they really put me off replying because 9 times out of 10 those messages never went anywhere. It was the same every time and no effort to actually get to know each other. 

I finally met up with one guy I had great conversations with, he was a little bit older. We met up, it went great, we got on pretty well and I'd say there was chemistry. We continued a few more times until he would be getting drunk the night before we'd hang out and make the excuse of being too hungover to meet up. I quickly decided that I didn't deserve to be let down over and over again. Back to OkCupid I went. Looking for the next chapter.

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The Middle

So I continued with the online website dating. Talking to many different guys but not really feeling it. I ended up neglecting it. That was when someone messaged me but because I hadn't been on I hadn't replied. Through the website they found me on Facebook (sounds a lil creepy I know) and messaged me there. I got talking to him. We had great conversations online. We met up, got on pretty well, things were going great, I met his family, we went to Italy together and then he broke up with me the day after Valentine's Day to be with another girl. So I have definitely had my fair share of shit Valentine's Days. He let me fall hard for him without the intention of it going anywhere. I was just convenient for him at that moment in time. No worries though... I learned a lot in the aftermath about myself and about what kind of person and relationship I would want. Next!

The End

I thought to myself I'll give this site one more chance. However this time I wasn't feeling it at all. I was going a couple of months just ignoring it. I also took the break up pretty hard so I felt I needed to give myself some time to heal. I had also went into a brief fling with an ex. I am now 25 at this point and I go on for the sake of it and there is a message sitting from a guy I knew from high school. Completely surprised and pleased I replied. We quickly met up and it was just like catching up with someone because we already had stuff to talk about. He was great. No.. wait! He is great. Because that is how I met my wonderful partner in crime and it is the healthiest and most loving relationship I have ever been in. About time. I guess technically we already knew each other but if it wasn't for OkCupid we may never have got together. 

Thoughts

Sometimes I feel like there is still a stigma on online dating but it opens you up to so much more. It helps you to put yourself out there when you aren't really into going out or a bit shy. It's still not easy and it can be a hit and miss (you gotta kiss a few frogs before you find your prince right?) but including myself I know many others who have met their loved one through the internet and I think that's a wonderful thing. I haven't used the website since 2015 so I don't know what it is like anymore but I'm sure it still has it's good points and bad points and sometimes it takes a bit of perseverance. But it certainly has brought people together and has given me experiences I never would have otherwise. 

Comic art from one of my favourite artists Sarah Graley

Thanks for reading! xx Hope you enjoyed my post! What are your thoughts on online dating? I know it's not everyone's cup of tea. I certainly had my issues with it from time to time. Let me know! :) 

Happy Valentine's Day! Whether you are single or loved up make sure that if you are going to show anyone love... let it be yourself! You are just as important.